Self-Care Your Vagina Will Thank You For


If you read my last post (if you haven't - you should), then you know that your mental health and your pelvic health are closely related. Unmanaged stress, anxiety, and trauma often shows up in your pelvis as digestive issues, pelvic pain, pain with sex, urinary issues, and even lack of orgasms. It seems like we ALL are dealing with some from of stress, anxiety, and trauma and often times don't know where to start with our self-care journey.


Self care is one of the easiest things you can do to improve your mental health. I'm NOT saying that self-care is all you need, as I STRONGLY believe that therapy is necessary to properly handle stress, anxiety, and ESPECIALLY trauma - I'm saying that self-care is an accessible way to start and continue your mental wellness journey. Self-care is about what works for you and makes you feel loved and cared for. Take these tips as a guide or a reference point, and make your self-care routine unique to you and your needs. Also, be flexible! Our needs ebb and flow like our lives, so your routine should do the same. Be gentle with yourself! This is about YOU.


  1. Diaphragmatic breathing - Diaphragmatic breathing is a great self-care activity because it stimulates your vagus nerve, which turns on your body's relaxation response. This relaxation response paired with the physical lengthening of your pelvic floor with this breathing make for a flexible vagina (flexibility = more strength, more function, more lubrication, and better orgasms).

  2. Minding your diet - Love yourself by choosing foods that nourish your body and meet its needs. Mindful eating leads to improved mind and body functioning and will having you feeling energized and balanced. A healthy mind and body makes a nourished, lubricated, and strong vagina.

  3. Moving your body - Exercise and mental health are positively correlated in research. The more you move, the better you feel - physically AND mentally. Movement increases blood flow, reduces stress, and promotes proper bodily functioning. Moving 30 minutes a day, 5x/week, will give you a healthier and better functioning vagina.

  4. Setting boundaries - Setting boundaries is how you communicate to yourself and others that you matter and are worth honoring. Saying no, prioritizing your "me time," and protecting your peace keeps stress at bay and makes for a relaxed vagina.

  5. Choosing gratitude - Choosing gratitude focuses your mind on the positives in your life, which breeds a positive mindset. This is not to say that you should simply ignore your stressors, but a positive mindset helps you make better decisions - like finding healthy ways to cope with the negative aspects of your life. A positive mindset makes for higher libido, which makes for a happy vagina.

Remember, this is a guide, a starter pack. You don't have to do everything all the time, and you can add in the more commonly-known self-care activities like lighting candles, hot baths, and grooming (I actually recommend it!). As long as you are loving and caring for yourself, your vagina will thank you.


If you found this helpful, share it with a girlfriend that could use some help with her self care routine!

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